There are 5 surprising secrets that instantly make women notice you. Ignore them, and you're dooming yourself to rejection and the friend zone. But if you master them, you'll know exactly how to talk to women, understand their thoughts, and leave them eagerly awaiting the next time they see you. And secret #5 will completely change how you see attraction.

To understand why these secrets are so important, let me share a story about Jason—a man who unknowingly made every mistake in the book. At 32, he was successful in his career but kept striking out with women. One evening at a friend's party, he met Megan - smart, beautiful, and surprisingly interested in him. They exchanged numbers and began dating. For the first few weeks, everything seemed perfect.

But slowly, things changed. Megan's texts became less frequent, her once-playful tone replaced by curt, one-word replies. Her smile during their dates seemed forced, her laughter fading into polite chuckles. Jason told himself he could fix things if he just tried harder. But no matter what he did, her interest kept declining, things only worsened as time went by.

After four weeks, she ended things with the classic 'I'm just not feeling it anymore.' Jason was confused - what had changed? What he didn't realize was that he had unknowingly activated five attraction-killing switches in Megan's mind.

So what did Jason do wrong? I'll reveal these 5 hidden secrets so you can avoid Jason's fate and understand how women REALLY want you to flirt with them.

But first, let me explain to you the single most important and fundamental concept you must understand to succeed with women. Attraction isn't a choice. Unlike men, women often act based on how they feel at the moment, because their actions are emotion-based they can't control who they are attracted to and who they aren't.

And since it’s an unconscious process, there are certain behaviors from men that trigger attraction from women. And all you need to do is to adapt these behaviors into your personality to spark her interest.

Let's start with a simple secret that many people overlook.

P1: Inner game

The fastest way to kill attraction is to put a woman on a pedestal. When you mentally position yourself below her, she can sense it immediately. Women don't want to be worshipped - they want to be fascinated by a valuable man who knows his worth.

When Jason first met Megan, he couldn't believe his luck. She was way out of his league - at least that's what he thought. During their first few dates, he constantly checked if she was enjoying herself, laughing too eagerly at her jokes, and repeatedly mentioning how beautiful she was.

What Jason didn't realize was that Megan noticed his insecurity immediately. The more he put her on a pedestal, the less attracted she became. Jason's fundamental mistake was seeing himself as lower value and Megan as the prize to be won rather than approaching the relationship as equals.

So stop the constant compliments, the eager-to-please behavior, and the subtle communication that says 'you're out of my league.'

Instead of constantly complimenting her, share a story about a recent accomplishment or a passion project you're excited about—this subtly communicates your value without seeking approval and subconsciously activates the first switch women really want: a confident man.

Now we're done with the mindset let's move on to conversation

P2: Conversation killer

One of the most common conversation mistakes men make is oversharing and under-engaging. When you dump your life story, insecurities, and every detail about yourself in early interactions, you eliminate mystery and sexual tension. Women aren't attracted to an open book - they want a thrilling mystery novel, not a boring instruction manual.

By their third date, Jason thought things were going well with Megan, so he decided to 'open up' to create a deeper connection. When she asked about his job, he launched into a 15-minute monologue about his accomplishments. When the topic shifted to family, he shared intimate details about his parents' divorce and his difficult relationship with his father. Eager to impress, he answered every question with exhaustive detail, leaving little mystery.

What Jason failed to understand was that oversharing doesn’t just bore her—it destroys the tension that makes her want to know more about you. Without mystery, her interest fades.

Next time you meet a woman, follow the 50-30-20 rule: spend 50% of the conversation focused on her, 30% on shared experiences or environment, and only 20% on yourself. When she asks about you, give intriguing but incomplete answers that make her curious rather than exhausted. This creates the exciting chase that women actually want when being flirted with. Thus activate the second attraction switch women really want: a mysterious man.